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I love your version of Release Me! I will confess that it's a once in a blue moon exercise for me to go through my contacts and delete the ones who I'm not in touch with anymore (especially the ones that never had a full name and are in there as something like "Mike bearded guy"  ).I would never think of contacting any of them after years had gone by. I think the record is getting an email from someone who I was corresponding with 11 years ago (never met him).   
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Probably a guy thing, but I guess it depends on the person. I can't speak for everyone, of course. It might be symbolism of sentiment...or that of a sort of trophy for some milestone achieved by actually having the chance of meeting a real woman to begin with. Overall, look at the facts involved. Women can have their pick of the litter 24/7/365 to pick up as many phone numbers or to arrange any meets/dates that they wish from men on here; whereas men on the other hand can sit on this site for an entire 24 hour day and would be extremely lucky to get as much as a "hi" in return to reaching out to over 100 so-called "women" from here. I think the problem with posts like these is that women don't see things from men's perspectives...and vice versa. We're also not seeing all of the underlying issues and hurdles involved, such as how unstable this site is to communicate on, or how everything is purposely limited, restricted and monetized down to a scientific impossibility to even get in touch with others or to hold a conversation, much less meet them, or the massive gender imbalance around here, or the incredible amount of fake profiles, catfish and scammers who are all impersonating "women". It seems to me that if men are actually fortunate enough to talk to, get a phone number or meet women, then it's something that we all know is unbelievably rare, so we hold on to that milestone for either trophy reasons (something we're proud of), sentimental reasons (memories of something amazing that once was) or of reasons in hopes to possibly rekindle once again (it happens sometimes). That's just my two cents worth. I hold on to various things from people. Or to say differently, it's not that I hold on to things, but rather, I just simply don't usually just delete things. Not just phone numbers, per se, but screen names, real names of people, email/messenger contact info, addresses, birthdays, etc. It's not intended to sound or be creepy. I have already talked to women years ago and like the way of things, sometimes life gets in the way for each of us, so some time goes by and we go on a dry spell. Sometimes it'll slip my mind that I have accounts on certain sites or messengers. Then I'll sign in after months or even years go by, only then to find those women. I have had instances where I have reached out to them and we've rekindled. Having stored information always helps me recall specifics of them, and there's nothing nicer or rewarding than to wish a woman a Happy Birthday when you haven't talked to her in a while or to refer to her by name, or to recall certain specifics about her or what we have chatted about a while back, etc. I see nothing which isn't in my favor by NOT deleting history and information, but that's just me. Is it a guy thing? Perhaps so. I just think it depends on each and every individual, honestly. If someone is flaky in life, they'll probably forget things or delete things. If someone is neat and organized in life, they'll probably archive info or not delete history...but then again, that can go both ways, since organization would mean cleaning up things which are no longer in use or of relevance. If someone is not very sentimental, they'll probably be the kind to forget the past, erase history, never hold on to hopes or fantasies of the unlikely rekindle and move along from person to person. Is it a lazy thing? Perhaps so. There are no shortages of lazy people out there. It's just hard to say. I just think it's more of a debate that men hold on to something in hopes that they may eventually need to fall back on that reserve (phone number) as a safety cushion in hopes of the possibility of rekindling. If you're walking through a desert and have drank the last drop of water in your water bottle, it would be wise of you to not discard that bottle, because if by chance you arrive at an oasis, you're going to be happy that you still have that bottle with you to fill up. I think that's the mentality of why many men hold onto numbers and info. I can't speak for everyone, but I don't delete anything. Receipts, owner's manuals, extra parts that come with assembling a product, etc. If you always have the possibility to reference something that potentially could help you or be in your favor in the future, why purposely discard of it? That's just how I see it, but I realize that my mind works in a sort of critical or scientific kind of way. Nice blog read, nevertheless. I think the topic may be debatable from person to person....or maybe gender to gender.
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Yes... You did indeed blog of the beer guzzling brigand. (I can vouch for that.) Though, if your name was EH might take three thumbs. You could pervert the song but not the name... *. *. *
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I have several observations 1. Some engage in purely assault sex with “friends.” Although not in a relationship, they remain acquaintances. 2. Some cannot let go.’ 3. Some cannot figure out how to delete.
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because of your post, A*F*F"s 90,000,000 members are, as we speak, now going thru their phone contact lists
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I love your version of Release Me! I will confess that it's a once in a blue moon exercise for me to go through my contacts and delete the ones who I'm not in touch with anymore (especially the ones that never had a full name and are in there as something like "Mike bearded guy" ).I would never think of contacting any of them after years had gone by. I think the record is getting an email from someone who I was corresponding with 11 years ago (never met him). "Mike bearded guy" *guffaws* he's got you listed as ' smarty the knitting chick '
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I'm slow to delete. I am quick to make a note of Ugh or No. Or something very unflattering ... premature, immature, stinky, juvenile, mommy issues ... That way when they do contact me years later I remember why I walked away from them, LOL.
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I can be quite guilty of hanging on to the past and not deleting numbers long past their usefulness. Whether it is just to make me look more popular than I actually am, or I'm clinging onto a happy memory, perhaps it is a little of both. However I did delete an ex g/f from my address books after she said some unkind things about a couple of friends over a number of years. That was quite satisfying seeing her name disappear knowing her toxic influence would affect me no longer.
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I only delete those who are crass an ass and rude....the others even though they have faded away...they are still there. Dont know why.... I should go thru my phone now....lol
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It seems like every time I get a new phone, my synch pulls contacts from years and years and years ago into it! For a while there, I was prefacing people's names with their locations, so I'd have "Asheville Mike" and "Dallas Cynthia" in my phone book!
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Things change. In the modern world information is valuable - no reason to ever delete is, though yeah from time to time I look and try to recall what the coded name means. The Unofficial Start of Summer Friday Final Jeopardy Volume 1 Outtakes, on HNW [post 3312759] My Private Post - Tell Me ALL Your Secrets – Anything you write here is just between us
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I delete anyone I'm done with. One guy kept calling so I saved his contact info again so I could avoid him. Elevate me... 
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I was surprised how few numbers I actually had when I transferred them over to my new phone  
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Ha! You got me to check my phone to see if I deleted old contacts. Suprised myself that I have. I would not call one after it is over , or not really started even if I forgot to delete. Leaving them in for a while does help warn you of them calling. Loved the take on Engelbert's song. Hope you are having a good weekend. I am, spent part of it overnight with Diane. Sending big hugs to you. If you see me in the real world, come say "Hi Justskin." I always behave. Preferably not well. 
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i keep numbers. i delete numbers i don't want to be tempted to call. so JR my college ex is not in my stored numbers. i keep the numbers from here so if someone calls / texts i won't be caught off guard who it is... one time i switched phones and whenever that happens i lose some numbers. someone knew me well enough to know what city i lived in. and i was getting a text of longing like one a year for several years. stuff like i'm in atlanta and thinking of you... i had NO CLUE who it was! and still don't.
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