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It's not even about venting in a bad way, it's about possibly hurting someone else's feelings, even long down the road, and not in the moment. I've made the mistake twice, once I got away with it, and even let him read and approve prior to posting. But in the end I've done away with both postings. People change, their memories of certain things change, what might once be a fond moment can become a bitter moment with the passage of time. Especially if there are new partners in the mix that end up reading about past experiences. I have real life friends I can vent with. I'm glad you also have another place to vent.
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Time and place for everything - hopefully anyway. Glad you have a place to vent. The Top Ten Rationales in Support of Fake Tits What I Learned From the ATeam Oooppps, I Did It Again [post 3312759] My Private Post - Tell Me ALL Your Secrets – Anything you write here is just between us
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it's a bit of bummer for you, since this is one of the better place to vent. But I can understand it can hurt someone's feelings. Even if I know the people I talk about don't ready the blogs, I still change names, and other details (place, time) But that can make it confusing when keeping my story in line.
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It can be a dilemma for sure, and I've been tripped up a few times over the years. It's funny, because ideally I'd want to go out with someone who does read my blog and participate - but then that removes the fun part of being able to write about them. In anything but the most flattering terms, that is.    
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I treat my blog as an extension of my home. I've never seen anyone who also blogs here. If I did, I would keep the details private as blogland is sort-of public. 
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Some people seem to lose their ability to filter as they age while I am the opposite, I tend to think more before I speak/write now ...
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Discretion is essential........I have been the subject of a blog post where the lady thought it appropriate to broadcast our discussion in detail, with no prior reference to me. There was nothing particularly controversial in any of it, it was just that I had believed our conversation to be a private sharing of some intimate details. I thought then, and still believe strongly that it was a breech of privacy and trust. Perhaps I'm a bit too private at times........
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I try very hard not to vent here for many reasons. One of them is it rarely comes to any good. Filtering is so important. I had forgotten to do so not thinking the woman I was referring to would be reading. I know I hurt her feelings badly. I try to do a lot better job of it now though is can sometimes be a fine line. Hope you are managing to keep relatively cool. Supposed to hit 100 heat index today. Am thinking of going to Devil's Lake and bring a floating chair or lounging mat. If you see me in the real world, come say "Hi Justskin." I always behave. Preferably not well. 
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I don't tend to give much of my personal life away on blogs. I know that doesn't make me a true blogger but I prefer it that way. Most of the comments I make are more personal than my blog! 
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Did you mean 'then'??  Och, sorry, kinda missed the point there.........
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I think in some ways this is part of why I stopped blogging...the first time. That loss of anonymity to express what and how I wanted without having to care what others would think because they didn't really know my life. I'm not unhappy that I made real friends out of virtual ones, but it became more difficult to blog after that.
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I had a casual long-distance thing going with a former blogger a few years back and he got really bent out of shape when I referenced meeting someone locally... that was the first time I ran into that feeling of "should I filter" Unfortunately the answer was yes and, like Kay said, it makes blogging more difficult.
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i chose to block someone i was dating here. at first, he was mesmerized and enjoyed the idea of it. and the topics. but even if i was writing about the past before him he found it hurtful. so i opted to block him as i'm my place to vent. the old blog was more than just venting... it was a lot more sexual about past and current lovers. and meets. but i did keep seeing him for 6 month. he never commented about getting blocked.
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i did not unblock him... it was a painful breakup for me. and i was already filtering posting just how badly it had ended. but when we first started to see each other and things were going well i noticed he had blocked me on the bookface. i didn't stalk his account. but as i had his number in my phone the account had come up. and i am guessing my account came up for him... then i noticed his account wasn't showing up anymore. we have each other's emails. he has never contacted me again. and i did not reach back out. in the end i actually was the one to end it.
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I've dated a few bloggers over the years, and sometimes it was fun to flirt between the lines but, inevitably, when things ended it was always awkward afterward to resume. I've never had to block anyone in that regard but I suppose I would if things got nasty. I feel like blocking is only for extreme cases. Elevate me... 
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I met two local bloggers in my first year here on the site. I would like to believe there was a certain level of sister/brotherhood and that they understood and respected what I wanted to share on my blog. They were here before me so I relied on their example. Fortunately I didn't feel there was a reason to vent, things were actually positive. I wish I could write more about my off-site experiences but I do think in the end it's best to keep mum about most of what does or doesn't transpire with other site members.
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