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Episode V: Carrying On and Peanuts, Peanuts, PEANUTS!!
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Episode V: Carrying On and Peanuts, Peanuts, PEANUTS!! It really bothers me to have the word stealing gremlins loose, so will post in comments as well for the work around. Thanks for the read and following my story! You know how browsing on the internet can become a time suck? How Facebook beckons for all to like, comment, or emoji all the happy posts from friends…food posts, pet posts, we’re so in love posts, etc., etc. ad nauseum? Fuck Facebook! I gained a new time suck that week. MenNation.com was my new go-to every morning with that first cup o’ joe. I was almost late for my class that day because there were so many penis pics, sigh…and so little time! I responded to a few on here that reached out to me with more than a two-word comment or dick pic. [I’m sorry, but “wanna fuck?” just doesn’t cut it for me]. I went in to the office to get my music when my dear friend greeted me with a whispered, “I met someone!” “Gilf” took over my job when I retired at the beginning of the year. We had been friends for about 20 years and tho’ she had been a stay at home mom all those years, I knew she would do well in my position. She returned the favor by hiring me as a free-lance teacher of dance and art as no one else could fill those shoes adequately. I can’t lie, it was a rocky transition at first: balancing a friendship with a work relationship is hard, but I knew she was the right person for the job. The previous year of me scaling back, and her asserting her ascending position was rough on the friendship. Add to the mix the stress of her marriage beginning its descent to ending-well, suffice to say, nerves were fraying a bit. Her comment that day fast-tracked our healing however. “You did? Ohhhh, grrrrl, we gotta talk!” We met after her shift was finished that very day for drinks and downloads. She filled me in on her re-acquaintances: Facebook had reunited her with a former lover. He was her Rock n Roll, Harley riding “Friend with Benefits” before such a term was coined. Now, married, he struck up conversations with her as if the years and life had not separated them at all. When she was done sharing her good fortune, I swallowed hard and screwed up the courage to tell her about my screwed up life. Soooo, here’s what’s new in my life… With that I brought her up to speed with my story. I could see her anger rise up for the hubs. I was okay with that.  I went on to explain my new activity and how admiring eyes wanted to know more about me. [Wait! That’s “inquiring minds”, isn’t it!] Those kind ogles and compliments did a girl good, I must say! They really helped me get through those initial, very dark days. I was surprised at the response on the site and it felt good to know that maybe I could be considered attractive to some. It helped me to be better grounded; no longer insane; less obsessed with the hubs’ goings on now. [well…kinda] Who needs counseling? Just go on a hookup site, lol! Even more helpful, I now had a friend I could confide in. What a relief that was! Gilf is a good listener, too. She took in the whole story and then after a short silence, she said, “Good for you! I say, Go for it! If you and the hubs are in agreement, then, Do it!” “We’re not getting any younger, right?” I said as I raised my glass. At that, we clinked our glasses and said, “Till next time!” How about you? Do you have someone you can talk to about ‘the lifestyle? Do any of your closest friends know?  ~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~ |
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You know how browsing on the internet can become a time suck? How Facebook beckons for all to like, comment, or emoji all the happy posts from friends…food posts, pet posts, we’re so in love posts, etc., etc. ad nauseum? Fuck Facebook! I gained a new time suck that week. MenNation.com was my new go-to every morning with that first cup o’ joe. I was almost late for my class that day because there were so many penis pics, sigh…and so little time! I responded to a few on here that reached out to me with more than a two-word comment or dick pic. [I’m sorry, but “wanna fuck?” just doesn’t cut it for me]. I went in to the office to get my music when my dear friend greeted me with a whispered, “I met someone!” “Gilf” took over my job when I retired at the beginning of the year. We had been friends for about 20 years and tho’ she had been a stay at home mom all those years, I knew she would do well in my position. She returned the favor by hiring me as a free-lance teacher of dance and art as no one else could fill those shoes adequately. I can’t lie, it was a rocky transition at first: balancing a friendship with a work relationship is hard, but I knew she was the right person for the job. The previous year of me scaling back, and her asserting her ascending position was rough on the friendship. Add to the mix the stress of her marriage beginning its descent to ending-well, suffice to say, nerves were fraying a bit. Her comment that day fast-tracked our healing however. “You did? Ohhhh, grrrrl, we gotta talk!” We met after her shift was finished that very day for drinks and downloads. She filled me in on her re-acquaintances: Facebook had reunited her with a former lover. He was her Rock n Roll, Harley riding “Friend with Benefits” before such a term was coined. Now, married, he struck up conversations with her as if the years and life had not separated them at all. When she was done sharing her good fortune, I swallowed hard and screwed up the courage to tell her about my screwed up life. Soooo, here’s what’s new in my life… With that I brought her up to speed with my story. I could see her anger rise up for the hubs. I was okay with that. I went on to explain my new activity and how admiring eyes wanted to know more about me. [Wait! That’s “inquiring minds”, isn’t it!] Those kind ogles and compliments did a girl good, I must say! They really helped me get through those initial, very dark days. I was surprised at the response on the site and it felt good to know that maybe I could be considered attractive to some. It helped me to be better grounded; no longer insane; less obsessed with the hubs’ goings on now. [well…kinda] Who needs counseling? Just go on a hookup site, lol! Even more helpful, I now had a friend I could confide in. What a relief that was! Gilf is a good listener, too. She took in the whole story and then after a short silence, she said, “Good for you! I say, Go for it! If you and the hubs are in agreement, then, Do it!” “We’re not getting any younger, right?” I said as I raised my glass. At that, we clinked our glasses and said, “Till next time!” How about you? Do you have someone you can talk to about ‘the lifestyle? Do any of your closest friends know? ~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~
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That's "admiring eyes" and “inquiring minds” AND "watering mouths" and "stiffening cocks" that NEED to know more. My closest friends are the ones I met on this site, and there are several that know the EVERYTHING / the WHOLE story, but like me anyway. Thanksgiving 2020 on HNW Round 2 of You Know You Like A Game for the Blogging Community My Covid Memorial Lights Are Up [post 3312759] My Private Blog - Tell Me ALL Your Secrets
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Hmm, thanks for sharing I get my fill of "do you wann fuck" texts from Pros in the area there's no response from me for those we only have one life to live and, I believe you should do whatever suits you I've had old flames come to me over the years, because they never really left, they just discovered a different world when people tell me that they've met their soul mate, I'm always amazed because there are over 7 Billion people on the planet, and, can there only be one in a lifetime, you don't meet that many people, and some people continue to grow, while others stop in a time block, or close their filters, or shut off that newness factor when I'm ready die, then, I'll go quietly I must say that I am happy with who I am I have met some interesting people here and in the real world I responded to your other post have a great Thanksgiving hmm be safe Janelle Kroll - "Down to you" (My Confidante)... (an homage to Joni Mitchell) Everything comes and goes Marked by lovers and styles of clothes Things that you held high And, told yourself were true Lost or changing as the days come down 2 you It's down 2 you Constant stranger You're a cold person You're a kind person 2 It's down 2 you It all comes down 2 you In the morning there are lovers in the street They look so high You brush against a stranger And, you both apologize Old friends seem indifferent You must have brought that on Old bonds have broken down Love is gone Written on your spirit this sad song It's down to you You're a cold person You're a kind person 2 It's down 2 you It all comes down 2 you Chicago's not the East Coast Tell me 'bout LA I'm caught up in the middle Tryna get away How you gonna grind You say how you gonna save I'll make it there by New Years Let's throw a parade You helped me2 it my confidante Don't you forget it But, I'm going through it my confidante you got a minute We're 2 young 2 worry about our future for today And, it's 2 late to talk about the past 'cause it's 2AM Some things will never change Everything comes and goes Pleasure moves on 2 early And trouble leaves 2 slow Just when you're thinking You've finally got it made Bad news comes knocking at your garden gate Knocking for you Constant stranger You're a brute, you're an angel You can crawl you can fly too It's down to you It all comes down 2 you Yeah you, 2 You (x3) It all comes down 2 you... To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!! 
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I don't have any friends nowadays who aren't "lifestyle" in some form or another (nudist/swinger/Ds/poly) and I consider myself blessed by the ability to have open conversations and questions and venting sessions with all of them! It wasn't always like that... I remember mentioning to an acquaintance once about going to a nudist club decades ago and they were so freaked out and judgmental. 
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A very timely post for me. I dont now what you mean about the lifestyle as we are all here for diff reasons. I am in a school district and was advised long ago not to post any pics on a site such as this, so i havent. I will think abt that after i retire. A very close friend is the only one who knew that i had a special friend for almost 8 yrs ..from this site. She and i never lived in the same state , yet were friends since childhood and followed each other thru college, marriage, family and loss. I think of the movie Beaches as i write this. He ( my friend) had her contact info in case he couldnt contact me. She agreed to that arrangement. Thats how close we are....we held each others confidences. Well....this wonderful lifelong friend passed away last week. I am devastated and heartbroken beyond belief. I didnt think my heart could break anymore after losing my mom. only sib and hubs within the last 6 yrs....and now her. Yep...we would clink our glasses too....and talk ...and giggle.....and talk about growing older together. I loved your story and i love and miss my friend 💕 Be safe ~~ ( crying as i write and re read this before i hit ' post' )
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That's "admiring eyes" and “inquiring minds” AND "watering mouths" and "stiffening cocks" that NEED to know more. My closest friends are the ones I met on this site, and there are several that know the EVERYTHING / the WHOLE story, but like me anyway. Thanksgiving 2020 on HNW Round 2 of You Know You Like A Game for the Blogging Community My Covid Memorial Lights Are Up [post 3312759] My Private Blog - Tell Me ALL Your Secrets ~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~
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My "lifestyle" on here is pretty mundane. I have not personally met anyone from the site although I do correspond with someone I met here. I tried the gold route a couple of time but got sick of the scammers and professional users that sent me email. So..... in answer to your question, I don't discuss my activities here with anyone not from here even though my blog is usually not very sexual to start with, more of just talking about whatever is on my mind. I have considered what a good meeting story it would be for the overly curious if something more permanent would come from meeting someone from here. Personally..... I think it would be a great story. "We met on a sex site....." I imagine how that would go and laugh, thinking of the people I know and their reactions. They would probably think it sounds about right knowing me.
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