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This blog is dedicated to my lil buddy Dude.

I hope you enjoy what you read here
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An Open Message to SandraD
Posted:May 15, 2015 9:12 am
Last Updated:Nov 24, 2015 6:43 pm

Hello Sandra,

I’ve read some of your postings and replies to others, you come across as smart and strong. I have not seen the accusations and won’t look for them. What is more important is that I see you have been hurt and are planning on leaving. That makes many people here sad.

You do not have to defend yourself. Since the accusations are not true then they are not about you. They only reflect who or whatever the accuser is. The other people who read your postings have a better idea and appreciation for who you are. You matter and they matter – the rest is just noise.

As far as the site is concerned, personally I have very few expectations of them. They are a business in an unregulated space (the net). Their primary focus is to make money anything more is unfortunately unrealistic.

We, Americans & Canadians too (I believe), have the Right of Free Speech. A part of those rights include being able to say things that others, many others, will not like. That includes bullying and haters. Bullies will be on the net no matter what any of us do. Is it necessary? NO. Can you get away from it? Given the context of sexually based sites probably not.

So what “should” you do? Like I said I’ve read some of postings replies to others about how some people here act. You have essentially said block them. As you can see many people will miss you, so you lose something you have enjoyed and they lose the same. If you allow haters to dictate what you do – they win.

I cannot tell you what to do. So I have a personal request of you – stay and enjoy what you do. Ignore/block or whatever, anyone who doesn’t appreciate what you do. I hope you will remain strong and take the advice you have given others. If your is paying attention to this it will set a strong example for her to follow.
Dude my lil cat buddy – update
Posted:May 15, 2015 8:58 am
Last Updated:Feb 1, 2017 3:09 pm

Once the rain goes away I am going to spend the day outside with Dude. He was originally an outside guy and eventually chose to hang with me inside half of the time. He was more active yesterday afternoon when we were sitting on the front step, so I will sniff the air and watch what is going on around with him. I will probably tell him that I love him a million times.

I have to feed and give him water with a syringe, which he isn’t fond of. But he has always been a very easygoing guy, so it isn’t too hard, except for the reason why I have to do it.
Dude my lil cat buddy - last update
Posted:May 14, 2015 4:08 pm
Last Updated:May 20, 2015 5:03 pm

The x-rays were done today, lungs are cancered up. My ex Cathie is going to look at them just to be sure about the decision. She will want to see him probably tomorrow. So he will be put to sleep Saturday.

I am going to miss him more than I have words to describe
Dude my lil cat buddy – update plus . . .
Posted:May 13, 2015 3:57 pm
Last Updated:Feb 1, 2017 3:09 pm

Vet called today with blood test results. It shows increased calcium level, which could be an indication of cancer. Since his breathing was “a bit rough” it could be there. Next step is x-rays to see further. So I am not happy. I’m going to talk to the ex, Cathie, who I was with in 2009 when Dude limped into our lives. We knew he tested positive for feline HIV or leukemia then but we were told it could be that he had been vaccinated – long story. Cathie and I are friends so I will see what she thinks/feels.

To add to that . . . my most recent ex (2013), MG, called from out of the blue. Her fiancé split (actually her 2nd fiancé split in 1 year) and she called me. She knows I would drop pretty much everything to fix what we had (much more than just a sex thing) – another long story. That is pretty much the reason why I ended up here. Whether she will see/listen/hear or whatever is way up in the air.

So I am in a pretty shitty / confused place right now. As I read this it makes me seem like an f’n drama queen, which I am not.

Again, I am asking everyone to please pray, or whatever you do, for my lil buddy.

Thank you
Dude my lil cat buddy
Posted:May 12, 2015 5:51 pm
Last Updated:Mar 19, 2018 4:44 pm

Just got back from the vet, he was dehydrated and his lungs sound a bit rough. He got an anti-biotic shot, fluids and they took some blood for tests. Tests are for HIV, other functions plus Thyroid. All kinda like happened to me. Thyroid is important in cats.

So please pray, or whatever, that my lil dude will be a good with the tests. They should be in tomorrow, so I probably won’t get any sleep. I’m kinda scared, I love my lil buddy a lot. I promised him when he arrived here that I would do all I could to keep him healthy and happy.
Alcohol & Final Lap
Posted:May 8, 2015 11:40 am
Last Updated:Dec 1, 2018 4:30 pm
I just got news that a good friend of mine, Donald, died this AM. He was 41 years old and could not or would not kick his alcohol problem.

We were racing buddies; he crewed for me for a while in the 90’s. In 2011 we raced an off-road car together, the first, and only, pro race he drove in. I have offered one of my checkered flags to his mom to go with him.

People, if you can’t control what you do just don’t fucking do it. When you die it effects the people who care about or need you. He is leaving 5 without a father.

I may post more about him later.

Below is a pic of the car in action

An apology
Posted:May 7, 2015 11:43 am
Last Updated:Sep 22, 2015 11:34 am

No, this is not sex related, but this subject has been discussed here before so . . .
First, I am a huge football fan. I expect the game to be played by the rules.

Mr. Kraft, whom I care little about one-way or another, has asked for an apology in regard to “Deflategate”. He probably isn’t going to get one from the NFL. So this will have to suffice.

I am sorry you have a number of dishonest people working for you. I am sorry you and those people lack integrity.
I am sorry but your team deserves to lose a significant number of draft picks.
I am sorry that you have a team name that you do not represent well or deserve to use.

I am sorry your highly talented and accomplished quarterback thought he had to;
- get involved in tampering with the game balls,
- lie to cover up that tampering,
- has now lost a significant amount of integrity
I am sorry but Mr. Brady deserves to be significantly suspended.

I am sorry your coach, who is probably one of the best football minds in the game, thinks we believe he ‘does not know’ anything about how the balls were dealt with.
I am sorry but Mr. Bela-cheat (hummm, sorry, I guess my auto correct did that, I know nothing about it) deserves to be significantly suspended.

Finally, I am sorry that you are such a sorry example for anyone to follow.


Disclaimer: I am a die-hard RAIDER baby. And, I really, really hate dishonest people.
Question for Women, what do you consider . . .
Posted:Feb 19, 2015 4:08 pm
Last Updated:Aug 31, 2015 4:08 pm

to be the definition of a BBW?

I know BBW means Big Beautiful Woman. The question is what constitutes big?

Many here claim this is what they are, just curious I guess.

Thank you,
I’m not a teacher here
Posted:Jan 28, 2015 3:48 pm
Last Updated:Feb 11, 2016 3:06 pm

I was told that I should “Try and teach them how to be real men, or even gentlemen.”

I have a few questions for anyone who cares to honestly answer or comment.

I do not know any of the males on this site, good or otherwise. I am not their boss, parent, mentor or teacher. Since they do not seem to pay attention to women, or other men, what would make you think they would pay any attention to what I say?

I am responsible and answerable for my comments here, no one else’s. If people don’t like what I have to say why would they want me to teach what I know?

I welcome any credible, constructive and on point answers or comments.
Friday and Saturday nights
Posted:Jan 22, 2015 4:33 pm
Last Updated:Jan 23, 2015 7:10 am

In my time on this site (on and off 13 months) I have noticed something that seems odd considering that the site says it is for people to meet for sex. I see a lot of people, women in my case, on the site on Friday and Saturday Nights.

My presumption is that most people work Mon – Fri and that Fri & Sat nights are “date” nights. I know some people are here just to chat/blog or otherwise not meet. Yes, I know some people are disrespectful in one way or another.

According to the stats page for AZ there are about 18k Women seeking Men and 320k Men seeking Women. I will assume (yea, yeah ass U me) that ratio is about the same across the US and possibly Canada (eh). So theoretically every woman should easily have one guy on any given night they want to and particularly on “date nights”.

Yes I know there is more to this than numbers, but the numbers are significant even if you split the ratio in half.

Any thoughts on why this is?
What I’ve learned in my first week of blogging here
Posted:Jan 18, 2015 4:38 pm
Last Updated:Jan 29, 2015 4:33 pm

1. I can get women from Canada (and other cold places) to lol, and and be my fan etc.
I’m in AZ, how do I make that into something horizontal?
Ladies, you are definitely opinionated, opine upon that.

2. My profile is good with a few of the women who blog here. Hardly anyone else sees it.

3. Do not piss off the women who blog here.
So far so good for me, but something I say here is bound to get me in deep guano.

4. Women and men complain about no shows.
Guys – if you don’t show how the f&$# do you expect to “get some”?
Ladies – I will be there, ‘nuff said?
Guys – forget what I said. You’re making me look like James Bond doing that.

5. Being 1 of a billion male members; I have to juggle being horny with being respectful.
Juggling chainsaws sounds easy now.
Being a member here doesn’t mean post a pic of your member.

6. Last, and perhaps most important, . . . a turkey dinner isn’t necessarily a “turkey dinner”.
A turkey dinner may make me sleepy.
After “turkey dinner” I would sleep with a huge grin on my face.

Feel free to email me if you want do something about #1, or if you think I am Bond.
Question for women - tools for fools
Posted:Jan 18, 2015 8:10 am
Last Updated:Feb 11, 2016 3:06 pm

Do you really care, like or dislike if a guy on this site; hot lists, fans, or flirts you, or are these tools for fools that you effectively ignore?

Also interested in knowing why either way.

Thank you,
Seeking Women’s Opinions
Posted:Jan 11, 2015 4:51 pm
Last Updated:Jan 30, 2016 6:52 am

What I’m looking for is women’s input on what guys write in their profiles. What I think I know is; be honest, women in general don’t want penis pics (lots of comments on profiles about that), and one profile won’t attract all cause women aren’t all the same.

Do you believe what men write, or do you figure some/most/all of it is bs?

What do you really want to know about a guy from his profile?

Do men’s profiles seem to all look the same (cookie cutter, adjective filled) after a while? Many women’s profiles say the same fairly obvious things; want fun (in and out of bed), love to laugh, easy going, down to earth, open minded, adventurous.

I’m good with getting general input or, if you want to comment on my profile specifically that is welcomed too.

FWIW, there are few female members in the area I live (northern AZ) so I usually contact women in the Phoenix area (about 90 miles away) so I know distance is an issue. I read the profiles (yes really) and send messages (respectful, nothing crude or stupid), but not a lot of responses. I also know there are women who don’t like beards and who prefer black guys. I don’t expect every one to respond, but I would be more inclined to pay again if more did.

On the other hand, I’ve been here, off and on, for a little over a year now. Once I’m on the phone with someone things have gone pretty well. I’ve called and met 4 women (0 now shows).

Thank you.

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