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rm_PrisicaK 49F
718 posts
12/21/2015 7:29 am
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There are some bits of information that it is crucial to tack on at the beginning of conversations with intent to engage me sexually, platonically, or otherwise. Dribbling these nuggets further in has a tendency to leave a bad taste in my mouth. For example, I chatted with a gentleman for a while and we discussed a public meet. When it came to planning the date and time, he stated he could not meet me in public as he had fractured his foot and was home bound. I could have understood it if he front loaded our conversations with that, but on the back end it sounds like some kind of rapey shit. I chatted with another gentleman on a dating website. Our communications expansed a couple weeks. When it got for scheduling a location, he said he wanted to go downtown. When I asked where he said he didn't have a car and that I should pick him up. When I was hesitant at that, he suggested we meet near his home, but when I asked how he would get to the restaurant in question it went straight back to me picking him up. Its not a big deal if a guy doesn't have a car but that is a piece of information that needs to be front loaded. Had it been, I would have broken off communications much sooner because I live a good 30 miles away and didn't foresee myself traveling 60 miles roundtrip consistently for dates.

iwalkstilts 49M
2869 posts
12/21/2015 7:59 am

 A guy needs to have a car.


shyviolette 64F
9347 posts
12/21/2015 9:08 am

 Fractured foot. Uh huh. That's a new one.

Guys don't necessarily need a car, but they should be independent enough to get around on their own. How the hell do they get to work? If he can get there, he can get to you.

The reason they didn't tell you this stuff up front is because it's bullshit and they needed to see if you'd possibly take the bait first before bringing it up. Asshats.
When the tides of life are against you

And the current upsets your boat

Don't think of things that might have been

Just lay on your back and float

Ed Norton / The Honeymooners 1954


rm_PrisicaK replies on 12/21/2015 9:18 am:
I appreciate that feedback. I think our societal standards for men have lowered to the point that anything is acceptable.

Otis_Good 72M
4037 posts
12/21/2015 11:16 am

 Sounds to me like he is looking for a ride to the crack houses . I had one knock on the door and ask for a ride not out of my way if I was going anywhere . When she got in the car she had to make four stops along the way . I found out where the crackheads live in the neighborhood .


Owatalife 68M
1711 posts
12/21/2015 1:18 pm

 One would think that when pursuing such a delicious sensuous and obviously quite smart Lady that it might be in their best interests to be upfront with such basic info.


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