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What can I say... I'm a chubby delight.  

secret_lade 50F
13760 posts
10/15/2020 4:22 pm
What can I say... I'm a chubby delight.


The Spawn was digging through the coat closet yesterday and happened upon an , pink fleece that I used wear....  Once upon a time.

"Why have you been hiding this from me??"

"Oh, I forgot I had that.  That is so ...  I used love that coat."

"It's cute!!  Did this FIT you???"

Her brow was furrowed, totally not believing I could have ever fit into such a tiny jacket.

"I wasn't always the cubby delight you see before you now, you know."

I could see the wheels in her mind twirling as she came to the realization that I could have possibly looked different at in my past. 
 
"I don't know if I'd go so far as call you a delight..."
  
What a stinker!  She's totally got my personality.  Poor ....

"Now you know why you aren't my favorite ."

"I knew it!!"

Happy Thursday!

secret_lade 50F
9227 posts
10/19/2020 10:27 pm

    Quoting allgud69xxx:
    I can’t say I’ve had the struggles with weight. I have a high metabolism, so even though I can destroy lots of calories, I’ve only put on about 15-20 pounds since high school, and am pretty fortunate that way. But, I know people who have to work a lot harder to not have issues run through most of their lives.

    Sure, the visual element of appeal is something ingrained in our biology, but the way you relate to a person is so much more than that. Beyond the actual fucking part, when you’re relaxing together naked in between pleasure sessions, if you like cuddling, spooning or other forms of canoodling with each other, makin’ out, talking or whatever, what does the rest of it matter? Enjoyable is enjoyable. Or, “delightful”, as the case may be ...

    Yes, the Spawn sounds like she can be a real peach, sometimes. But, when kids have kinda only known you “one way” for the cognizant part of their lives ... ? Perhaps the ones who have a little more imagination can consider something other than what they’ve explicitly known.

    So long as you are happy and don’t have health matters dominating your life, then you get to do what you want. And, if somebody can’t see the person, then you probably don’t have to deal with somebody who is likely superficial about lots of other things, too.
I have to say, I agree.... If you really like someone, what does the rest matter? Some of the most attractive people to me aren't really all that outwardly attractive... I'm attracted to their kind spirit, or their sense of humor.


allgud69xxx 51M
502 posts
10/19/2020 5:44 pm

I can’t say I’ve had the struggles with weight. I have a high metabolism, so even though I can destroy lots of calories, I’ve only put on about 15-20 pounds since high school, and am pretty fortunate that way. But, I know people who have to work a lot harder to not have issues run through most of their lives.

Sure, the visual element of appeal is something ingrained in our biology, but the way you relate to a person is so much more than that. Beyond the actual fucking part, when you’re relaxing together naked in between pleasure sessions, if you like cuddling, spooning or other forms of canoodling with each other, makin’ out, talking or whatever, what does the rest of it matter? Enjoyable is enjoyable. Or, “delightful”, as the case may be ...

Yes, the Spawn sounds like she can be a real peach, sometimes. But, when kids have kinda only known you “one way” for the cognizant part of their lives ... ? Perhaps the ones who have a little more imagination can consider something other than what they’ve explicitly known.

So long as you are happy and don’t have health matters dominating your life, then you get to do what you want. And, if somebody can’t see the person, then you probably don’t have to deal with somebody who is likely superficial about lots of other things, too.

-- allgud69xxx

Yeah ... that's right ... I went there ..
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secret_lade 50F
9227 posts
10/16/2020 3:26 pm

    Quoting lunchandconvo:
    i'm glad you were able to get professional help!

    i'm the only chubby person in my thin family. it comes up ALL the time with. my mom. she usually buys a 20lb bag if rice so she prefaces my weight on how many bags of extra rice i am carrying around.

    i try to limit being around her. because my weight always comes up!
I'd limit my time with her too. As an adult I've learned, I choose who I spend time with and I prefer to choose the people who accept me as I am.


secret_lade 50F
9227 posts
10/16/2020 3:20 pm

    Quoting pocogato12:
    Egad when I had to down size when I sold my house I was de-clothing the back closet and lo and behold I found a dress I kept from my modeling days. Yes a size 6 and like the line in McArthur's Park I'll never see that again. Even the cats walked out of the room when I folded it up
Wow! You were a model? What did you model?? A coworker of mine used to be a car model at the big conventions where they introduce the new models every year. She's in her 50's now, but she showed me pics from back in her modeling days and I was just blown away. She had the Farrah flip and everything...


secret_lade 50F
9227 posts
10/16/2020 3:16 pm

    Quoting bustinout20202:
    Oy! My son, [the Man-child], told me when he was in high school and came across an old pic of me, "You were hot once, Mom, now you're not!"
    Aren't children grand?!
Yes, they certainly are! LOL My boys were never like her, they always just loved me the way I was.


secret_lade 50F
9227 posts
10/16/2020 3:13 pm

    Quoting  :

My favorite response when she says stuff like this is....

"Better watch it. You are my mini me.... This is YOU in 30 years." LOL


bustinout20202 67F  
1080 posts
10/16/2020 7:58 am

Oy! My son, [the Man-child], told me when he was in high school and came across an old pic of me, "You were hot once, Mom, now you're not!"
Aren't children grand?!

~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


pocogato12 107F  
37234 posts
10/16/2020 7:49 am

Egad when I had to down size when I sold my house I was de-clothing the back closet and lo and behold I found a dress I kept from my modeling days. Yes a size 6 and like the line in McArthur's Park I'll never see that again. Even the cats walked out of the room when I folded it up

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lunchandconvo 54F  
4034 posts
10/16/2020 4:49 am

i'm glad you were able to get professional help!

i'm the only chubby person in my thin family. it comes up ALL the time with. my mom. she usually buys a 20lb bag if rice so she prefaces my weight on how many bags of extra rice i am carrying around.

i try to limit being around her. because my weight always comes up!


secret_lade 50F
9227 posts
10/16/2020 3:44 am

    Quoting lunchandconvo:
    my size chart has been from a 4-18+.
    once i'm at 18+ i go the elastic route and try not to think about it...

    i'm currently at 16 but not filling out the way i used to.
    so the ass and boobs aren't as big as they were.

    for a long time i kept a brooks brothers business jacket in a size 4.
    i need to give that away.
I don't keep clothing that doesn't fit as incentive to lose weight. Sometimes something will be uncovered buried away somewhere... But that's not very often. For a lot of years during my adult life I bordered on eating disorder. When I was pregnant with my oldest son, I had to see a dietician because I was not gaining weight. When I was pregnant with my middle son, again, I had to see a dietitian because my blood pressure was high (a result of spending several years restricting calories), and when I was pregnant for my daughter I had to see a dietician again because I was borderline gestational diabetic (from living on Mt. Dew). When I was 40 I noticed my hair was getting really thin and I just wasn't feeling myself. I started to see a dietician again, taking pic's of my food and sending it to them, weighing myself every day on a special scale... And I got healthy. In 2018, I started seeing a dietician, again.... LOL This time because I was worried about my weight gain. I think for me, my weight will always be a sensitive subject.


lunchandconvo 54F  
4034 posts
10/16/2020 2:48 am

my size chart has been from a 4-18+.
once i'm at 18+ i go the elastic route and try not to think about it...

i'm currently at 16 but not filling out the way i used to.
so the ass and boobs aren't as big as they were.

for a long time i kept a brooks brothers business jacket in a size 4.
i need to give that away.


secret_lade 50F
9227 posts
10/15/2020 10:39 pm

    Quoting easy_going2014:
    that's funny

    are children see us in a totally different light

    but, then, the grandkids do 2

    hmm

    be safe

    Alabama - "Dixieland Delight"

    Rolling down a backwoods Tennessee bighway
    One arm on the wheel
    Holding my lover with the other
    A sweet soft southern thrill
    Worked hard all week
    Got a little jingle
    On a Tennessee Saturday night
    Couldn't feel better
    I'm together with my dixieland delight
At the moment, my daughter is my biggest critic, my biggest "pointer out of every flaw." I can't wait for her to outgrow this.


secret_lade 50F
9227 posts
10/15/2020 10:33 pm

    Quoting  :

I never purposely kept any of my skinny clothes. I dress to fit the size I am at the moment....


secret_lade 50F
9227 posts
10/15/2020 10:28 pm

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    At least she appreciates your taste in clothing. I dug out my late-Ex's fringe leather jacket thinking the oldest g-girl would jump at the possibility of being the cool "biker chick" at school. She never considered wearing it.
If you suggest something to them, they won't touch it, it's immediately scoffed upon. If they happen to find it on accident, then it becomes a hidden treasure.


easy_going2014 57M
14366 posts
10/15/2020 7:49 pm

that's funny

are children see us in a totally different light

but, then, the grandkids do 2

hmm

be safe

Alabama - "Dixieland Delight"

Rolling down a backwoods Tennessee bighway
One arm on the wheel
Holding my lover with the other
A sweet soft southern thrill
Worked hard all week
Got a little jingle
On a Tennessee Saturday night
Couldn't feel better
I'm together with my dixieland delight

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mc_justmc 64M

10/15/2020 5:33 pm

At least she appreciates your taste in clothing. I dug out my late-Ex's fringe leather jacket thinking the oldest g-girl would jump at the possibility of being the cool "biker chick" at school. She never considered wearing it.


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