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No One Can Make You Feel Inferior Without Your Consent
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No One Can Make You Feel Inferior Without Your Consent  These words are a remarkably insightful statement about self-esteem. When I saw them recently in a daily newsletter, I wanted 'to' understand their origin. Eleanor Roosevelt uttered that phrase about an awkward event in 1935. The Secretary of Labor in the Roosevelt administration was invited 'to' give a speech at the University of California, Berkeley on the Charter Day of the school. The customary hostess of the event was unhappy because she felt that the chosen speaker should not have been a political figure. She refused 'to' serve as the host and several newspapers viewed her action as a rebuff and an insult. When Mrs. Roosevelt was asked at a White House press conference whether the Secretary had been snubbed, her response was widely reported. “A snub” defined the first lady, “is the effort of a person who feels superior 'to' make someone else feel inferior. To do so, he has to find someone who can be made to feel inferior.” Through the years, I have encountered people who tried to use this tactic. With maturity and life’s experience, I realized it has everything to do with them and nothing 'to' do with me. They often have insecurities and it helps them to feel better about themselves if others are unhappy. A happy person will not be motivated to make others feel miserable. I am a strong, confident, resilient woman who has faced many challenges head-on. I do remind myself of this, counting each day as a blessing with the refusal 'to' be made ‘to’ feel inferior by someone else’s insecurities. |
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Have you encountered people like this? How did you handle them?
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Yes you are a very confident lady as many of us here are. It's a real shame with those that feel less confident have to try to make us feel that way. This was a great read, as it was quite informative. Thanks for sharing this with us and I hope you enjoy the rest of your evening.. Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on.. 
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Concur. It's challenging to not let toxic people get under your skin. However, this is a battle worth winning. Although positivity feels like a scarce resource right now, it is in abundant supply, albeit a bit hard to find.
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Have you encountered people like this? How did you handle them? I usually ignore that kind of crap. When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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A guy I work with is like that. I usually ask him to explain why he feels that way and his reasoning is so ridiculous, it's like debating with a 3rd grader. 
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Yes many of them I'm afraid, and for the longest time I would want to do battle with each and every one of them. Those days have passed though, I just smile and keep moving now. I don't let their opinions make me feel anything, as those are personal to them! Chin up, and carry on!!
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Hi sexyldy1000 thanks for sharing this PSA I agree Have you encountered people like this? Yes How did you handle them? Ignore them, block them, walk away, ask them to please not talk to me life is good hmm Pharrell Williams - "Happy" It might seem crazy what I'm 'bout to say Sunshine she's here, you can take a break I'm a hot air balloon that could go to space With the air, like I don't care baby by the way Huh, because I'm happy Clap along if you feel like a room without a roof Because I'm happy Clap along if you feel like happiness is the truth Because I'm happy Clap along if you know what happiness is to you Because I'm happy Clap along if you feel like that's what you wanna do To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!! 
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How very true. Someone a very Long time ago told me something similar, that you’re treated badly only when you allow others to treat you badly. That’s not exactly the same but the context was, I had some work issues and that’s rather similar, context wise. I sometimes wish these people harm, but the best thing is just to leave them. They’re miserable enough as they are. Don’t let them drag you down. Or in other words, fuck em! Not literally...
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What a great post I agree with everything you've said. I have never seen you belittle anyone maybe put someone in there place if they need it but that's different. I think you are one of the nicest people on the site, and think very highly of you because of it. We have two lives, and the second begins when we realise we have only one - Confucious
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Yes you are a very confident lady as many of us here are. It's a real shame with those that feel less confident have to try to make us feel that way. This was a great read, as it was quite informative. Thanks for sharing this with us and I hope you enjoy the rest of your evening..
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Thank you for the lovely compliment. I am me and I do not try nor want to be anyone else! Your enthusiasm with the giveaway is impressive!
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Concur. It's challenging to not let toxic people get under your skin. However, this is a battle worth winning. Although positivity feels like a scarce resource right now, it is in abundant supply, albeit a bit hard to find.
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It seems like people, especially here, often feel insulted by what a stranger says to them. Many have taken those alleged insults personally. What I usually wonder is; when the person is a total stranger and knows nothing about you why would you care about their uninformed/ignorant opinion? I usually ignore that kind of crap.
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It didn't happen overnight but the journey has been worth it 
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A guy I work with is like that. I usually ask him to explain why he feels that way and his reasoning is so ridiculous, it's like debating with a 3rd grader.
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In a world where everything is a competition now days, who did it better, who wore it better, who said it better... a world full of followers and few leaders is what it's becoming. I believe we see it everyday on here, you either confront it or run away from it, seems most just run away from it.
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What an excellent post my friend... In March when i decided to blog it was to defend myself to ones vicious treatment over the past 4 years... i used to sit back and take it But NO MORE.... even tho it is still carrying on i take a look at where its coming from...and laugh Thing is i dont need to meet anyone face to face to prove that they are toxic....it shows almost daily here in blogland....im good at reading between the lines Some people just choose to keep wearing Rose Colored Glasses... I have my own reasons for being here and FOR NOW ill STAY....I need NOT explain that to anyone...I ABSOLUTELY LOVE YOUR BLOGS AND THANK YOU FOR SHARING UR POINTS AS WELL...YOU DO YOU HUN...😄😄
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Hi sexyldy1000 thanks for sharing this PSA I agree Have you encountered people like this? Yes How did you handle them? Ignore them, block them, walk away, ask them to please not talk to me life is good hmm Pharrell Williams - "Happy" It might seem crazy what I'm 'bout to say Sunshine she's here, you can take a break I'm a hot air balloon that could go to space With the air, like I don't care baby by the way Huh, because I'm happy Clap along if you feel like a room without a roof Because I'm happy Clap along if you feel like happiness is the truth Because I'm happy Clap along if you know what happiness is to you Because I'm happy Clap along if you feel like that's what you wanna do
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How very true. Someone a very Long time ago told me something similar, that you’re treated badly only when you allow others to treat you badly. That’s not exactly the same but the context was, I had some work issues and that’s rather similar, context wise. I sometimes wish these people harm, but the best thing is just to leave them. They’re miserable enough as they are. Don’t let them drag you down. Or in other words, fuck em! Not literally... Thank you for stopping by and sharing your perspective.
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What a great post I agree with everything you've said. I have never seen you belittle anyone maybe put someone in there place if they need it but that's different. I think you are one of the nicest people on the site, and think very highly of you because of it.
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There are a lot of people that try to project their insecurities onto other people, I had a girl friend like that once, the experience put me in a very bad place for a while. It is unfortunate that there are a few on this site as well, I guess those in the know would term them sociopaths I call them nutters!
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There are a lot of people that try to project their insecurities onto other people, I had a girl friend like that once, the experience put me in a very bad place for a while. It is unfortunate that there are a few on this site as well, I guess those in the know would term them sociopaths I call them nutters! To define them as sociopaths seems extreme, based on the Mayo Clinic's definition: “ a mental condition in which a person consistently shows no regard for right and wrong and ignores the rights and feelings of others. People with antisocial personality disorder tend to antagonize, manipulate or treat others harshly or with callous indifference.". Your definition may be more accurate
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Have you encountered people like this? How did you handle them? Great post BTW!
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Like you, I recognize the fact that they own it, not me. Toxicity has the capacity to become a vortex that will consume you. Let it go and ignore them has become my M.O. Great post BTW!
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This is a most awesomeness post! I'm always good for the statement "one can only treat us as badly as we ALLOW them to". Couldn't agree more that the issue is theirs, not ours. It's definitely a challenge when interacting with someone like this, which, sadly, seems to be getting more common. You are a beautiful lady, inside and out ... In Luv, Lite, Laffter ...
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This is a most awesomeness post! I'm always good for the statement "one can only treat us as badly as we ALLOW them to". Couldn't agree more that the issue is theirs, not ours. It's definitely a challenge when interacting with someone like this, which, sadly, seems to be getting more common. You are a beautiful lady, inside and out ...
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